It is my hope that every high school senior has the opportunity to read and use
this book. I feel it’s more important for the young ladies because, from my
experience and observations, women are more sensitive and take things more
seriously than men.
If you’re about to graduate high school or have just graduated I know the
feelings you’re experiencing. Even though I’m sixty plus years old I haven’t
forgotten those feelings! “I’m free! I’m on my own! I can now make my own
decisions! Nobody is going to tell me what to do!”
The moment that diploma is placed in your hand, you’re free! It also means
something else. It means you are now in the real world. Being new in and
inexperienced to the ways of the real world you will make mistakes. It’s a
normal thing, it’s how we learn. There are some mistakes you want to avoid and
two of those things are marrying the wrong person and having a child out of
wedlock.
Marrying the wrong person starts with a relationship. A lot of women will take a
relationship very seriously while at the same time their counterparts won’t be
taking the relationship seriously, especially the younger fellows. The material
in this book is the real thing, not fantasy. I urge you to read the material and
take it seriously.
Being involved in a relationship that doesn’t work out isn’t the end of the
world. It’s part of the learning and growing process. You just need to be very
careful before taking the final step into marriage and/or motherhood, especially
if you’re under the age of 25.
During 2004-2205 I worked for a residential care home helping to take care of
mentally handicapped residents who had behavioral problems. I worked with three
very nice young ladies aged 19, 21 and 23. These young women had something in
common. They all had a child. The three children all had something in common.
Their irresponsible fathers left their mothers alone to fend for themselves.
Trust me on this. You do not want to find yourself in that situation. If so,
instead of enjoying life as a single person, right out of high school, going to
parties, traveling, meeting new people and furthering your education,
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You will be up all night with a sick child.
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You will be too tired to go to work in the morning because you were up all
night with a sick child.
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You will end up with jobs that pay minimum wage, maybe a little more, earning
not enough money to support yourself and your child.
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You will catch the wrath of your employer because you have to leave work
because your child is sick and if it happens to frequently you’ll be fired.
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Good chance you’ll end up on welfare.
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You will not be able to provide all the nice things you want your child to
have.
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You will be almost forty years old before you finish raising your child. You
will have missed your good times as a young single woman.
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It will be harder to find a life mate. A lot of men do not want a ready-made
family.
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There are more negatives but you get the idea.
The answer to your dilemma might be good ole mom and dad. Most likely mom and
dad will come to your assistance.
By making a bad decision on a relationship and having a child to raise on your
own you have messed up your life. I’m not saying everything won’t turn out okay.
You’ve just put an immovable object in your way to make things more difficult
for yourself.
Lets consider good ole mom and dad who will come to your aid. You will feel
relieved but at what cost? Not the cost to you! The cost to your parents!
Your parents have worked hard all their lives saving for the glorious day when
they can retire, travel with friends and have a good time. Instead they will
spend their retirement money and sacrifice their retirement time to support you
and your child. It is not fair to them and going on welfare isn’t fair to
society.
This was just a few things for you to think about.
Enjoy your freedom, have fun and above all, be smart.
Author
Peter A. Venuto
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