Life Experiences

‘Are You Sure You Want To Marry That Person?’
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Excerpts from Chapter 1 � Introduction

I'm sure all of you have heard it said, "Love is blind." Without a doubt, it is true. Without a doubt, the results of this love blindness are the many divorces that have physically and emotionally crippled people, especially the children.

As you read over these questions, you may feel some of the questions are absurd. The questions are not absurd. We live in a cruel world and we know so little about other people, and as the statistics show, we know very little about the person we'll be marrying. It only makes good sense to know as much about the person you want to marry before you marry that person. This Questionnaire will ask some hard questions that each party may feel too embarrassed to discuss. If two people are going to marry, then this might be a good test to see whether the two parties can discuss things of importance that might be uncomfortable to discuss. Look at it as your first real test.

Excerpts from Chapter 2 � Questionnaire

List the religions you hate:

During pregnancy, if it is determined the child(ren) will be severely disfigured or mentally retarded, would you want the pregnancy terminated?

The husband makes more than the wife and the wife's income is not needed to support the household. Should the wife be able to keep and spend all of her earned money as she sees fit?

List the things you do not like about your mother:

Excerpts from Chapter 3 � Answer Comparison Table

After the two of you sit down and discuss all the questions and situations in both Questionnaires, you will know if the two of you will be compatible or not. You won�t need anyone to tell you!

The author can imagine what some of the reactions will be to spending eight hours discussing the questions and situations in both questionnaires. Here is a real comparison for you:

Discussion Period:

8 Hours

50 Years of Marriage:

438,300 Hours

No matter how you feel after the two of you complete your discussion period, each of you should ask yourselves the serious question, �Are You Sure You Want To Marry That Person?�

Excerpts from Chapter 4 - True Life: Stories & Experiences

"Silence is not Golden, it's Deadly!"

The most important thing I have accomplished in my life occurred through the way I developed a close and solid relationship with my two sons; the type of relationship I never had with my parents. This relationship has always existed, and will continue to exist until I depart this world.

Avoiding a divorce is very simple. It's the non-commitment of one or both individuals that complicates things.

Your new wife prepares her first home cooked meal for you. It�s your favorite dish � the one Mom used to make. With your new wife waiting in great anticipation for your praises, you take a bite. The first thing you might want to say after taking that first bite is, "This doesn't taste like Mom's!" Guys! Please! Do not say that! Keep your mouth shut and just eat it! This is the one exception when a guy is allowed to lie to his wife! Just say, "Deeeeeelicious, Dear!"

If you think being married will be a big challenge, you just wait until children come along!

Some friends of mine used profanity, that famous four-letter word, in front of their three-year old daughter. When their daughter repeated all that profanity, they thought it was just hilarious. They never did find a preschool that would keep their daughter after she demonstrated to the other children and teachers what she had learned from her parents.

The Perfect Ending!